All of us want that every other person should like us. Once we graduate, we expect that all of our juniors and our classmates should remember us and talk about us not just them we want our relatives and family friends to talk about us in gatherings. Let me ask you what is going to happen if you are not accepted or remembered by everyone? You know that nothing will happen but this feeling is in your mind. The reason behind, we are groomed to think this way, even we watch in the movies that the protagonist is eminent and loved by everyone but in reality it is all scripted and you cannot become like him/her. Even if you start turning yourself into someone which you are not, and try to get everybody’s attention sometimes you start doing wrong or unethical things. If you feel like you have been pushing limits often just to please someone going out of your way and against your just to be liked by someone else, then pause and think to yourself if it is actually worth the efforts. Try giving yourself a priority once and see if another one accommodates to it. Do you think it is logical to do something just for somebody’s attention and is it even justified?
This is prevalent in schools and colleges where there are few individuals that are popular and they are perceived to be having extraordinary personas. Most individuals around these ‘popular’ students have a fondness to be their friends and be liked. If they even include you they are not going to love you the way your friends do. It doesn’t matter if people don’t remember you just think, are they really important to you? You should always stay with the people who like you and you won’t have to put efforts. So, being remembered and loved by someone who has nothing to do with you and investing your time on them is foolishness. This also happens in gatherings that you want your relatives or family friends to talk about you and appreciate you. Believe me, you are going to laugh on yourself when you grow up and also regret, that I should have rather invested my time on my career. I agree that this is the time to hang out and make friends, but there is never time for someone where you have to pretend to be someone else. Always, do whatever you feel is right for you.
IT IS FINE NOT TO BE REMEBERED AND LOVED BY EVERYONE IF IT COSTS YOU YOUR HAPPINESS AND PEACE OF MIND…
-Masoom Kotecha
-Third Year BPT